Advice columns are a great way to keep in tune with the needs of the age, but sometimes they make me really, really mad. Like yesterday. A man wrote that his best friend, his brother, whom he had always wanted as his "best man," was going to probably boycott the wedding. Why? Had the groom offended his brother? Was there a family feud involved? An argument over, say, an inheritance?
The boycotting brother is angry that he cannot enter into a gay "marriage," and so he is protesting the "discrimination" against persons like himself. He cannot bring himself to rejoice in his brother's happiness. In fact, he prefers to sabotage his brother's wedding.
Did "dear Abby" offer the groom any consolation at being let down so severely by his own brother? NO! She chastised him for not being sympathetic! And then she basically said, "We Americans need to learn from the Dutch, etc., etc., and approve gay marriage..."
Wait a minute.
I'm not going to touch the gay "marriage" thing at all. Let's just look at what one sibling is doing to another. By turning his brother's wedding day into an opportunity to make a protest statement against the larger society, the boycotting brother is acting in an incredibly self-centered way. Abby is so wedded to the gay marriage idea that she gave the gay brother a free pass for his selfish and immature behavior. His protest is out of place when it comes to a family member's life. Pity the poor groom, whose "best friend" is so unloving.