tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post2314632269908951975..comments2024-02-15T17:38:13.412-06:00Comments on nunblog: Scammed!Sister Annehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04032465016160490375noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-30315804574713767982011-02-21T14:02:53.372-06:002011-02-21T14:02:53.372-06:00Sorry, I hit post before finishing ...
In the sit...Sorry, I hit post before finishing ...<br /><br />In the situation you described, I believe there comes a point in the encounter in which both parties are recognizing the truth and one through (her) kindness says, "I am going to let you have your dignity" and the other appearing to have won his way says (internally), "Thank you for letting me keep my dignity even when I know that you know I was lying."Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11984922178492683577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-58237705004596539252011-02-21T14:01:11.447-06:002011-02-21T14:01:11.447-06:00I am glad that my reflections were somewhat benefi...I am glad that my reflections were somewhat beneficial. They come from personal experience. I try to essentialize the nature of gender, but I do believe that men in particular have an increased vulnerability when it comes to telling the truth about why they are not self sufficient or why they cannot provide for their families so resorting to creative license becomes the way out. Of course, there are those who do it to be deceptive but the majority I believe are doing it as a weak attempt at preserving the remainder of their dignity.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11984922178492683577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-59520490360729036142011-02-18T10:46:57.895-06:002011-02-18T10:46:57.895-06:00The encounter in your book center at closing time ...The encounter in your book center at closing time calls to mind the admonition of Jesus to withhold not your tunic also. Sister got off cheap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-51253015849493672622011-02-17T21:41:05.550-06:002011-02-17T21:41:05.550-06:00Lovely insight, Lisa, that "he couldn't t...Lovely insight, Lisa, that "he couldn't tell the truth of why he needed the money." That makes all the difference in the world in terms of my attitude.Sister Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04032465016160490375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-825892722434466852011-02-17T19:01:18.659-06:002011-02-17T19:01:18.659-06:00I think there comes a point in an encounter such a...I think there comes a point in an encounter such as the one you describe where one isn't really scammed because one recognizes the lie but one sometimes feels motivated to "reward" the innovation and creativity evidenced in the story.<br /><br />It happened to me recently at the Trenton Transit Center. A well dressed man came up to me and told me a really convincing out of the oridnary story -- I was almost inclined to believe him. I didn't really have any money to share but there was a moment at which I considered whether I should make smoe available in case he wasn't lying...<br /><br />Long story short, fortunately no one was hurt. And I believe in the end, the change SIster spared will come back you to 10x.<br /><br />I would suggest considering the closing operations, however, to ensure that it is always safe and doesn't become a target for this kind of shakedown approach...<br /><br />Ultimately, you are right -- scam artist or not, God still dwells in him and for whatever reason -- including his own dignity -- he couldn't tell the truth of why he needed the money. You are right -- before the Tabernacle is the best place to offer him up to God, but I think your distriction is legitimate when you also consider the vulnerability of the whole encuonter...Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11984922178492683577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-57044184568701524912011-02-17T08:52:38.407-06:002011-02-17T08:52:38.407-06:00We all have experience those hard lessons of being...We all have experience those hard lessons of being taking advantage of. Of course you were just trying to be a good person trying to help him. Don't beat yourself up because you didn't see him as a scam artist. The shame is on him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-29937847187776272011-02-17T08:03:20.984-06:002011-02-17T08:03:20.984-06:00Scamming nuns, how bad is that?!Scamming nuns, how bad is that?!Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01328812376288894935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-65000544205337678302011-02-17T05:54:46.048-06:002011-02-17T05:54:46.048-06:00I recall a story about Catherine Doherty at Friend...I recall a story about Catherine Doherty at Friendship House in the 1930s. At their clothing depot, she had given a particularly nice sweater to a homeless lady. Someone who was assisting her remarked, "Don't give her that. She will just sell it to buy booze and she'll be back with her hand out tomorrow." Catherine is said to have replied, "Then we better get in more sweaters". <br /><br />We do need to protect ourselves from being taken advantage of, but in responding to the genuine call to serve the poor, we may encounter this.Sean McGaugheyhttp://catholicroundup.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-26696667179629482662011-02-17T00:20:13.859-06:002011-02-17T00:20:13.859-06:00Sister - I'm a fan of "straight talk"...Sister - I'm a fan of "straight talk" - as in saying to such a scammer something like "I don't really believe your story. Just tell me what you need and we'll give you whatever help we can."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-17615985987752735932011-02-16T21:29:04.675-06:002011-02-16T21:29:04.675-06:00I think my comment was lost, so I will resend it.
...I think my comment was lost, so I will resend it.<br />tell the man that there are hidden cameras throughout the book center and for him to be sure to smile as he exitsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8950714.post-27478110533949874492011-02-16T17:00:37.145-06:002011-02-16T17:00:37.145-06:00It is hard to advise because each scam is a bit di...It is hard to advise because each scam is a bit different. Maybe ask for 2 pieces of ID and jot down the address, phone number, etc. If not willing to give that info then say no.Ruth Ann Pilneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14444361367208483037noreply@blogger.com